How to be a masculine man (in 30 days)

Date:- 30.11.2024

THE MINDSET MAP

Stop living in a delusion where you think that a fine morning will come into your life and all your problems will vanish like they never existed. That's not going to happen in reality.

You wake up to reality when you realize that no one is coming to save you from the world, that would be the day of reality for you.

You have to be there for yourself; no one else will be there. Your friends, family, partner—no one—yeah, they can support you on your journey. But some roads in life you have to take alone, with no friends, no family, no partner; it's just you and your god.

I am a firm believer that god exists, I am not an atheist. By religion, I am a pure Islamic maybe, I don't pray daily or I am not that spiritual, but I pray once a week and always bow down to god.

Every man should have a clear purpose in his life for getting what he wants out of life. For some it would be money, it would be better health, and for some, it would be status in society. It depends on every man's uniqueness and specifications.

One hard truth that always haunts me is that my parents will not be around here forever, I have to keep them happy no matter what. I need to accomplish a goal so big that they will be proud of their son.

You are not lazy you are confused probably most humans are, and when they don't have an aim in their life they get distracted a lot easier with worldly pleasures.

Did you ever notice why women are more emotional, when watching TV shows about love, or watching dramas 90% of the men don't like to watch those things, instead, men love sports where they are competing against something. Most men love mission, action, and death because they were born to do the things they were supposed to.

As a man you are supposed to suffer so your loved ones don't have to.

Every man should give 1 hour to himself.

I don't care what you do if you don't have 1 hour for yourself to give everything you do is a waste. Every man should have 1 hour for himself to build his own thing. You have 24 hours in a day you can easily give an hour to yourself to build your dream life, even with all the jobs you do and with all of those responsibilities.

It could be anything building a personal project, side hustle or anything that would bring value to the table for yourself for your peace.

Anything that is creative to you and you want to do in your life simply means your passion.

A men have both masculine and feminine energy it depends on how he uses it at times.

Men have both energies in themselves it depends on how they use it at times. You would not like to be at war for every day you want some peace in yourself, so you can go home take a rest, and spend some time with your kids and wife.

Discipline brats will go far enough than the ones who always want motivation for their work.

You all know that motivation is a feeling and to be honest as humans we all want it at some point in our life to do things, if not then you are waiting for something bad to happen to you.

There is nothing in this world that can give you motivation, but your personal bad experiences can.

Now, come back to the topic of, why disciplined brats will outsource the motivated ones.

Motivation comes and goes, but if you can master the power of discipline in yourself, and get the habit of showing up every day regardless of how you feel, you will be a different man.

I have been sufficiently motivated at times and then become the laziest person on earth. But I am disciplined with my work ethic, and most of you will know the reason if you've read my previous newsletters.

Certain things that you need to be disciplined everything else will follow:

• Work-out:- weekly, daily, 4 times a week. I don't care just make a schedule according to yourself and stick to it.

• Meditation:- the same thing goes for this too, (meditation helped me a lot to gain mental calmness, I wish I started sooner).

• Reading & Writing:- It depends on your interest and time limit, but an hour would be better to give 45 mins of reading 15 mins of focused writing.

• Building something:- That's what I've talked about earlier building something meaningful for yourself just for an hour.

If you can read, write and build for 1-2 hours per day you will be far ahead of your society and friends.

Try to do most of your in a flow state of mind. If you never tried out or reached the flow state of mind, here's how you can reach the flow state:

• Set a clear goal

• Focus only on one thing

• Follow the plan step by step

• Tune out distractions

We live in a world, where distraction is everywhere, but the focus is a superpower.

Use certain blocks of time to maximize your productivity, five-time management skills:

1. Prioritization

2. Time blocking

3. Focus (deep work)

4. Follow through (Doing what you say, you are going to do)

5. Energizing your work (play, power and people)

Happiness is a choice and Desire is a chosen unhappiness.

You can choose to be happy in your now, rather than waiting for the future happiness you want. If you are not happy with a coffee now, you can't be happy with a yacht, it's just you choosing materialism for your happiness but not your inner feelings and peace. Unchanged desire becomes the source of your suffering.

Happiness is a state of mind to be lived, not backed by desires, you can choose your desires as fulfilment in life but, not happiness. I have seen people who have gone through the worst miseries in life but still be happy and on the other hand, the people who have everything for themselves, remain unhappy. So, happiness comes within yourself, not from others or anything.

Self-obsession is also a source of suffering, don't be self-obsessed the happiest people are the ones who always love someone it can be your wife, parents, kids or god. I choose peace over thing for me peace is happiness.

Know your real edge, don't fake.

Every man knows what he's capable of doing and achieving in his life. But, don't fake it accept it, if you are not somewhere then don't pretend to be. Earn it solve it and then judge others.

Don't judge things that you have not experienced, judgement only leads to close-mindedness.

When you accept yourself, you get to know your edge and know yourself much better from where you are now and where you want to be after a certain time.

Things happen the most when you expect them the least.

Don't lose your hope, never lose your hope. I have seen more men not lost because they are lost at the ground, but because they accept the failure before it even happened. If you believe in your instincts that something will happen, it will happen. Your belief is stronger than your disbelief in things. You don't lose when somebody defeats you at something, the real failure happens when you lose in yourself, there will always be a piece left in the puzzle.

I don't know about your circumstances, but one thing I do know is if you have some level of belief that it will happen, then it will happen.

Never take things for granted.

Never take things for granted no one, not a single person not a single thing for granted, taking things for granted for a lifetime, will only lead you to unknown suffering. Do things on your own, and choose manually your work.

When you take things for granted you depend on them.

Lean just beyond your edge.

Now, when you know your edge lean just beyond it and take the risks. Never take risks too far from your edge or remain stagnant in life without facing any challenges. The best men were men who took risks and challenges just a level up to their edge.

Imagine you started playing a game and you have reached level 10, and you have a match with a 100-level player. What did you do? Exactly you became anxious and lost the game, but what if I tell you to have a match with a 15-level player? Now, you can say yeah I can fight a 15-level player with my current skill set and knowledge in the game. When your mind can't find a way it becomes anxious, but when the challenge is just above the skill level it becomes competitive, fun, and skilful to play.

If men realise one thing early in life:

Men have all the power in the world and over women, but women have only one and they control men with that 'sexual seductiveness'.

If you don't know your purpose, discover one.

As a man if you don't know your purpose discover one. Discover by having a chat with yourself every day. What do you exactly want out of life? Without any meaningful purpose, you will be distracted as a man by worldly pleasures such as entertainment, sex, women, and mindless activities.

So, if you don't have one you better choose one or discover one not what others want, but what you and yourself want. You must find out.

Expect nothing and give away everything except your self-respect:

As a man give everything you can to the world, to your loved ones whomever you want to, But never let someone disrespect you or you lose your self-respect for someone else. There is nothing in this world for what you can give away your self-respect. Not for love, nor friends, no one. Why am I saying all those things because I've experienced it again and again in my life?

Now, I have come to that point where there is nothing for which you can ponder over and ruin yourself or try to make things work by sacrificing your self-respect down the line, that's not worth it.

Pro tip:

If you want to stay ahead of your society:

• Read philosophy

• Read Self-help

• Understand Relationships

• Study Human Psychology

• Study Micro Economics

• Study Finance & Business

That is how you become a masculine man in all areas of life.

Thank you for reading, see you next week take care.

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-SAM